Health and Wellbeing

Organisational Skills and other things that fail me…

May 3, 2013

need to buy a diary

So, I was invited to join this new weekly linky called ‘The Lounge’, right?

It’s hosted by 5 pretty happening bloggers so when I received a personal invite from the Very Inappropriate Rachel (swears like it’s an art form), it felt like I was being invited to morning tea with the cool kids.

This week’s subject was ‘Things I thought I’d be better at’, and seeing as I’m shit at loads of stuff, I thought this post would write itself. I’ve been mulling it over.

I suppose I thought I’d be better at taking criticism, constructive or otherwise. I’m not too bad taking it from a stranger, but if I’m married to you? Forget it.

I could write about my foot and hand hygiene. I thought by now I would be better at washing hands before meals, not biting the skin on my fingers or filing back the rough rhinoceros dermis on my hooves.

A rhino's interpretation of my feet.

A rhino’s interpretation of my feet.

I could write about tact and how I thought by 36 years of age I would have mastered the art of tact. I’m shithouse at tact. Even when I think I’m being delicate, I come across as subtle as a punch in the face. It’s part of my charm, or so I keep telling myself.

I definitely thought I’d be better at grammar. I recently wrote in an email to someone ‘you know you’re shit’ and created all manner of awkward confusion. The apostrophe catastrophe will go down in the annuls.

I thought I’d be awesome at deciphering my baby’s cries by now. I’m still fumbling around in the dark (metaphorically), as I fumble around in the dark (literally) and I’ve been doing this in one form or another for three years.Is she hot? Cold? In pain? Or just stubbornly not wanting to give up the last pre-dawn feed?

But if you really want to know what I thought I’d be better at……

Time keeping.

Not time as in I can’t tell the time. Or even punctuality. I’m very punctual.

Time, as in, writing stuff in a calendar. Keeping track of dates.

I imagine my brain is akin to iCal and the steel trap will not let me down, but time and again, I simply forget shit. Appointments, play dates, birthdays… You name it, and I’ll thank you, because I’ve forgotten it.

I should, at the very least, write down birthdays. It’s not that I don’t care, it’s just that I think I’ll remember, and then….. well, it’s not my birthday, so I don’t care.

I have one girlfriend who’s birthday I never wrote down but by some sheer act of God, I called her three years in a row, randomly, on her birthday. Sadly, I never mentioned the words Happy, or Birthday, but I think I got away with it just for sheer arsey flukey-ness. I missed it this year, however.
Should have jotted it somewhere as it seems my connection with the Universal Birthday Calendar has been severed.

I’m a shocker for the double book. Considering I really don’t have much of a life, I’m forever finding that I’ve told two or even three separate people that I’ll do something, or hang out, and it’s all one big cluster frock…..or whatever the expression is.

It doesn’t make me look popular, it make me look like a dick.

The other side of that coin is setting a date and it simply slips my mind.

So, back to the link for The Lounge…… I knew it was opening May the 2nd, and I was ruminating and contemplating and I was thinking that this ought to be my subject matter, this lack of diarising.

I truly thought, that by almost 40, I would be  miraculously organised. I would keep a diary, or use ical (Lord knows I’m on my phone AND computer enough) and not be as unorganised as a teenager. I used to be a producer, FFS! My entire life was schedules, dates and diaries…..but to be fair, I was pretty shit at it then too.

I was better at the long lunch or wrap party part of my job. In fact,for a control freak, I’m quite the oxymoron.

Then, I looked at the date, and blow me down, it was May the 2nd yesterday and I hadn’t written a single word…and I ruminated and contemplated myself a late post……oh, the sweet, sweet irony.

It’s official. I’m going to do diary….

Would you recommend a paper diary or cyber diary?

What did you think you’d be better at by now?

Check out what other people haven’t got the knack of yet over at Misguided Musings, and hooking up with the floggers at With Some Grace.

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  • Reply Cooker and a Looker May 3, 2013 at 8:10 am

    I’m lousy at organizing too. This year I’ve resorted to a paper diary – so last centuary!

  • Reply multibloggingmum May 3, 2013 at 9:03 am

    I am good at keeping most appointments – thank god for smartphones!!
    But I am trying really hard to do things differently with the household organisation and also with the people within it … hmm
    I feel like a parenting fail sometimes ..

  • Reply Bunny Eats Design May 3, 2013 at 9:04 am

    Now I don’t have a family to organise so my life is infinitely easier than yours.

    I have a 3 month a page wall calendar that I jot down every significant event. Dates, parties, birthdays, days off work, other people’s days off work, markets, conferences, people’s last days, people’s first days. I even write down the date I buy something and the date it arrives in the mail so that I can check for next time. I feel that if I write it down, I can wipe it from my memory. It clears up the clutter in head.

    If you make a date, write it down somewhere even a scrap of paper tucked into your wallet will do but later transfer the info onto the wall calendar.

    I used to keep a calendar of all my blog posts and all future blog posts too. But keeping that up was more of a job than it was useful.

    • Reply Keeping Up With The Holsbys May 3, 2013 at 9:13 am

      Oh my stars! You’re orgamanised!!!!!

      I’m impressed.

      Sent from my iPhone

      On 03/05/2013, at 9:04 AM, Keeping Up With The Holsbys

  • Reply Rachel May 3, 2013 at 9:07 am

    YES! I am so guilty of over-estimating my avility to remember shit. And in an ironic twist this morning I also just failed to deal with some criticism on this very issue by some-one I’m married to *winning* .

    Do you buy diaries? Every year I do and I even go to the trouble of buying a lvoely one from somewhere like Kiki K. But every year it stays pristine without being marred by one single entry. Maybe we should make a pact to use them… next year?

    Thanks so much for linking up Mrs Holsby – to me it felt like I was INVITING the coolest girl in school to come and have morning tea with US!

    • Reply Keeping Up With The Holsbys May 3, 2013 at 11:00 am

      Oh stop, You flatter me!! I love flattery, FYI.

      I’m actually thinking that diaries would be cheap now as the year is nearly half done. I can buy a horribly expensive and stylish one and only not use half of it.

  • Reply katrinalovesjustin May 3, 2013 at 10:23 am

    I love that you were in a job that required organisation at this level, but still couldn’t manage it. I am like that. But I keep getting by, mostly because I surround myself with organised people.

  • Reply Sarah @ Slapdash Mama May 3, 2013 at 10:35 am

    Oh I hear you on all counts. Apart from grammar I is totally awesome at grammars. I really is. I am constantly double booking stuff. And like you my social life is not exactly butterfly status. So freakin annoying!

  • Reply coloursofsunset May 3, 2013 at 1:55 pm

    well, here’s my conundrum…if I have a paper diary, I forget to carry it with me, if I use my ical, I either forget to put things in it, OR I agree to things without looking at it, then when I do look, I see I’m already booked. I am trying very hard to put my son’s school things in my phone and set alarms for 1 day and 2 days before, because I don’t want to be THAT MUM whose kid stays in class b/c all the other organised mums paid for their kid to go on the field trip. In saying that, I sent him to school in his uniform on free dress day. Sometimes, you just can’t win or change!

  • Reply Tegan May 3, 2013 at 3:01 pm

    I’m getting worse with remembering stuff so have recently gotten a diary…which of course I then forget to take anywhere with me. It’s a vicious circle really.

    Thanks for linking up with us at The Lounge.

    • Reply Keeping Up With The Holsbys May 5, 2013 at 7:28 am

      Thanks for having me!
      I’m thinking a wall calendar that I look at every whatever and update every whenever.
      It’s going to be revolutionary. Can you tell? 😉

  • Reply Ness May 3, 2013 at 5:14 pm

    I have a paper diary and I forget to write things in it. Then if I do remember to write stuff in it forget to go back and check it.

    I do find some people who are the polar opposite a bit off putting at times. It’s like making an appointment with a professional to schedule a get together.

    Disorganisation seems to be more common than I thought.

  • Reply BOYEATSWORLD May 3, 2013 at 6:58 pm

    I forget something vital at least once a day. Appointments, deadlines, children.

    But I am old enough to start blaming it on impending senility as opposed to the fact that I just can’t get my shit together. 🙂

    • Reply Keeping Up With The Holsbys May 3, 2013 at 7:13 pm

      Totally getting on that train, sister!!

      Sent from my iPhone

      On 03/05/2013, at 6:58 PM, Keeping Up With The Holsbys

  • Reply Sarah Mac May 3, 2013 at 8:20 pm

    Cluster frock – I like that! I’m the queen of the double book – I promised to help a friend out next Friday completely forgetting it’s my son’s wedding!!!

  • Reply Kate May 3, 2013 at 8:59 pm

    I have 1 month to an A4 page printed free off the internet, in a plastic sleeve with a pen in it. It has a hook above my desk but in reality it floats around the house. I only take it to important things where getting an appointment is important e.g kids specialist. Otherwise I don’t commit until I’ve checked it. I pencil people in then email/phone to commit and tell them its in pen. At the beginning of the year I move all the birthdays over to the new calendar …. but I still fuck up and spend all day planning to call then remember to call the next day, or week.

    Then once a week I transfer it to the fridge so that everyone else knows what’s happening. I have two magnetic whiteboard things ($1.50 each from Ikea) that are separated into 7 boxes and a long box down the side. So the current week and the week coming are up for all to see. I found the family could only work with that much information at a time.

    Everyone has there own color marker and I write everything up. Even work for my Mr Monday to Friday. The long column is groceries, you finish, you need it, you write it up or Im not buying it because Im not psychic and if you tell me Im going to forget.

    My brain doesn’t remember enough to not have some structure and there is always too much happening not to be vaguely on top.
    Sorry its an essay.

    • Reply Keeping Up With The Holsbys May 3, 2013 at 10:06 pm

      Holy shit, dude.

      You need help.

      And I need your help!!

      Sent from my iPhone

      On 03/05/2013, at 8:59 PM, Keeping Up With The Holsbys

      • Reply Kate May 4, 2013 at 7:48 am

        I know I totally need help! 🙂

  • Reply Kate May 3, 2013 at 9:02 pm

    Oh and in answer to the actual question:
    What did you think you’d be better at by now?
    Running a household.

    • Reply Keeping Up With The Holsbys May 3, 2013 at 10:06 pm

      You sound all over it, mama!!!

      Sent from my iPhone

      On 03/05/2013, at 9:02 PM, Keeping Up With The Holsbys

      • Reply Kate May 4, 2013 at 7:56 am

        You are very kind and generous. Thank you lovely.
        Have a great weekend.

  • Reply Francesca WritesHere (@FrancescaBlogs) May 5, 2013 at 1:49 pm

    I’m definitely a paper diary girl. I forget to put things in my phone calendar. I have an A5 diary which I can keep in my handbag. I write tasks in there too and really satisfying to cross them out when they’re done.

    I thought I’d be better at looking after my skin by now. You know, cleanse, tone, moisturise. Nah, still useless at it.

    • Reply Keeping Up With The Holsbys May 5, 2013 at 2:00 pm

      Oh yeah. I cleanse in the morning and try not to wear make up so I don’t have to cleanse at night.

      Lazy much??

      Sent from my iPhone

      On 05/05/2013, at 1:49 PM, Keeping Up With The Holsbys

  • Reply marti May 5, 2013 at 7:59 pm

    You’re doing alright! I planned to link up and here we are a week later and I wrote and uploaded my post this morning- then realised my video won’t work on mobile so it’s incomplete anyway!

    I’ve also taken until the comments to figure out what an iCal is! Firing on all cylinders today, I am!

    Anyhoo, I use my phone calendar (aka iCal apparently!) for everything. If I don’t set the alarm it doesn’t happen. Other than that I fly by the seat of my duds- no timetables, plans, diaries, colour coding here.

  • Reply marti May 5, 2013 at 8:00 pm

    Ooh my comment is being moderated…I feel like a rebel! Wish I’d used a couple of F-bombs!

  • Reply Jenn May 6, 2013 at 9:11 am

    I prefer a psort diary, but my thoughts run faster than my hand holding the pen. So cyber diary, well really typing my thoughts, is easier…and faster for me.

  • Reply Jenn May 6, 2013 at 9:12 am

    *paper diary. Ha! That’s one reason why typing your diary kinda sucks. Lol

  • Reply mamagrace71 May 6, 2013 at 2:05 pm

    Don’t laugh but I actually have 3 (paper) diaries. Do you think I’m any more organised? Instead I get all confused and constantly lose them. It’s sad. So, so very sad.

    • Reply Keeping Up With The Holsbys May 6, 2013 at 2:33 pm

      Oh Mama G, that’s too confusing!! Did you buy all three, with great optimism, or were two gifts?

      You do so make me smile, you know.

  • Reply Kim May 6, 2013 at 8:24 pm

    I’m going with iPhone for date reminding, because it makes annoying noises at me till I shut it up. That way I usually have an hour to panic about the appointment I’d completely forgotten about, and figure out some way of dragging a child across Sydney to get there. The wall calendar thing? No good except for birthday parties. Cos it’s on the WALL and it’s very unusual that I’m near that wall when anything interesting happens that involves making a date. (It’s the kitchen FFS).

    • Reply Keeping Up With The Holsbys May 6, 2013 at 8:30 pm

      I know, right? I considered the paper diary in the handbag….but I hate carrying a handbag. I barely even carry a nappy bag because I think running the gauntlet is way more thrilling.

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