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Lessons in Life

September 3, 2014

You may or may not know that I went to ‘blogference’ on the weekend called ProBlogger. I went to learn about blogging but I learned so many lessons in life.

550 bloggers converging on one hotel on the GoldCoast is a hell of a thing, you can only imagine how many selfies and images of food were zipping across the interwebs. You would be forgiven for presuming it was a room full of narcissists, but I assure you it was anything but. There was much love and support to be had…

As many of you aren’t bloggers I’m not going to talk to you about the conference which although it was ten kinds of amazing, it’s boring as batshit if you’re not a bloggy type.

What I am going to talk to you about are a couple of the invaluable life lessons I learned while I was there, because I believe that no matter who you are or what your dreams are this stuff is relevant across the board.

Fear is a killer.

We all feel it.

It’s natural to feel fear around something you’re passionate about but you mustn’t let it cripple you.

I was shitting my pants about going and hanging out with so many chicks (chicks are freaky, right?) but what I discovered was a coven of love and support.

Darren Rowse, PB founder, said “If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit home and think about it. Go out and conquer it.”

How true is that? You need to go and punch that fear in the throat because scared people don’t achieve their dreams. I could be all ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’ but it’s a bit wanky, so hear this….


You already know I’m a wanker. I told you about my vibrator.

Don’t be afraid to tell someone how you feel about them.

Just before PB I received a message from someone I didn’t know. A blogger. A really good blogger. And she reached out to me to tell me she really loved what I was doing and they way I was doing it.

She made my god damned month. I hugged the crap outta her when we met for the first time over the weekend and I told her she really touched me.

It made me realise that it takes little effort to tell someone you acknowledge what they’re doing and that you rate them. I took that on board and went and gushed all over a few people that I wanted to tell I admired and did I make their day?

Who knows, but at least I wasn’t scared to share my feelings.

You don’t get successful overnight.


This one sucks big balls, sure, but it’s a great reason to keep going. Success, life, all of it – it’s a marathon, not a sprint.

Rand Fishkin, a specialist in something that I find really confusing, said “The price of success is failure after failure after failure.”

I personally would rather not fail lots of times, my poor ego hates it. Or maybe I already have failed many times. Lord knows, I’ve tried lots of things before I found this writing thing, but either way, you just need to start, and then you need to keep showing up consistently.

Set goals.

He who is aiming at something is more likely to hit it, than he who is aiming at nothing. Capiche?

Matthew Michalewicz touched on something that smashed me in the nose and made my eyes water….

Matthew Michalewicz

He also talked about goals, but you also need to believe in yourself.

And that shit is hard. It’s so much easier to doubt yourself, and wonder how you will ever achieve your dreams but you know what?

You are talented, creative and worthy, so why not you?


Just start. Today. Better to start imperfectly than to wait until you’re perfect. I can’t remember which guru said this, and I’ve totes paraphrased but you get the gist.)

Achieving your dreams is not magic, it’s knowledge and process. Doing the steps that lead you to where you want to be.

When blogging royalty recognises you it’s ok to wet your pants a little bit.

I’m not cool. Not by a long shot. You knew that already but now the cat is well and truly out of the bag with the rest of the world.

So all of this inspiration and joy has left me feeling wrung out like an old sock. I feel a little sad.

I feel a little scared, because this is it.

I’m standing on the precipice of my new life and it’s now or never…..

These really are the days of our lives, and there is no half way.

You either do it, or you don’t.



There were many awesome women, but these women?  They are my tribe.

There were many awesome women, but these women?
They are my tribe.

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  • Reply Kim-Marie from Kimba Likes September 3, 2014 at 8:07 am

    Darling girl, what a gorgeous gorgeous post! Love your work xx

  • Reply Sonia from Sonia Styling September 3, 2014 at 8:57 am

    What a brilliant wrap up of an amazing weekend! It was so awesome to meet you and hand out with you and so many fabulous bloggers. x

    • Reply Keeping Up With The Holsbys September 3, 2014 at 9:02 am

      Everyone said how lovely you were and I thought ‘Bleurgh, lovely’ but then we talked and I realised you have enough naughty to make your lovely awesome 😉

  • Reply Bunny Eats Design September 3, 2014 at 9:50 am

    Darling, you ARE blogging royalty.

    Every time I do something that takes a little bit of courage with my blog, I get plagued by doubts. Am I crazy? Why would anyone agree to that? What am I doing? Yesterday I sent out a bunch of requests to local businesses I love, asking for favours. Half of them have already come back to say they’re on board.

    It still amazes me, after 4 years of blogging that people think I am legitimate and not a complete fraud. You just pick somewhere to start, work hard, be authentic and pretty soon, you’re in. It’s kind of amazing.

    What you do takes enormous courage. Being vulnerable isn’t a weakness, it takes balls! Not the wrinkly squidgy kind either. Balls of steel (and a little bit of insanity).

  • Reply Annette of I Give You The Verbs September 3, 2014 at 12:36 pm

    I like your spirit! That conference was scary, and fab, wasn’t it? I’d like to go to the 50 people version.

  • Reply Maxabella September 3, 2014 at 2:11 pm

    This post is slathered in awesomesauce, Danielle. Long time listener and caller here and I say JUMP!!! x

  • Reply Carly Findlay September 3, 2014 at 5:39 pm

    I love this post! You are awesome and I’m glad you’re taking the plunge into doing something more amazing!

    I made a really big decision today – two actually – I’m gonna make a big work choice that let’s me do more of this blogging thing. Bring it.

    Loved meeting you! You got a Mention on my blog x

    • Reply Keeping Up With The Holsbys September 3, 2014 at 5:42 pm

      Leap and the net will catch you. You are so close and you are so amazeballs.
      I’m running to look at your blog now!!

  • Reply claireyhewitt01 September 4, 2014 at 9:34 pm

    It was a great conference and a pleasure to meet you. I keep trying to think of which session I liked best, but I still can’t pick which one.

    • Reply Keeping Up With The Holsbys September 5, 2014 at 4:31 pm

      I can’t choose either. Some of the key notes were very entertaining, but some of the other stuff was more specific to me. I liked the networking factor too. It was great to hug so many people in real life.

  • Reply mummywifeme September 5, 2014 at 4:28 pm

    I love that ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’. I was all consumed with fear or shyness or god knows what at times during the conference. Other times I was my normal self. Strange … I only wish we had the chance to have a bit of a chat, but thanks for saying hello. It was great to see you in your pirate get up. You’re a little bit awesome.

    • Reply Keeping Up With The Holsbys September 5, 2014 at 4:30 pm

      I’m a little bit ridiculous more like!! I hope you had a brilliant time and got what you wanted out of it. Great to meet you in person too xx

  • Reply Sonia Life Love Hiccups September 5, 2014 at 11:25 pm

    You are dong it chick and doing it proud! Keep going with that awesomeness… you coud bottle it and be a billionaire xx

  • Reply Sam Stone (@A Life on Venus) September 10, 2014 at 3:55 pm

    I really hope that you achieve your goals on this new path of your life. I really think you are awesome.

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