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What do you want from me?

August 24, 2015
what do you want from me?

This is just a happy snap from my trip. The beach was deserted, my kids and Grandpapa were treasure hunting and I was so freaking happy the smile was beaming on my cheesy head.


Going on a road trip directly after my mind-expanding (and brain cell damaging) weekend at ProBlogger was kind of a blessing in disguise. Instead of dashing home and doing ALL. OF. THE. THINGS. I was disconnected for the most part and I just had time to think and plan.

I need to get organised. I reckon that’s a big source of my stress, so that’s something I need to pull finger on. I’m an incredibly productive chaotic hurricane and I’m thinking maybe it’s time for some systems.

Are you a systems person?

The other weekend at Blogicon there was much talk about problem solving for your readers and giving them want they want, and it has once more raised the issue that I really just kind of write whatever. You want style tips, you go elsewhere. You want beauty tips, nope, you don’t look here….

You want random vagina talk, visceral life experience and nipple hair, I’m your girl.

I don’t really have a niche…. or maybe a have a few. I don’t have a swag of products to try to sell you. I’m not creating webinars and apps and planning world domination through technical means. If you want me to take photos of your family or help you with food inspiration, I can do that.

If I think of something funny – I write it down.

If I make something yummy – I want you to be able to eat it too.

If I’m feeling like I’m having a Brittany moment and about to shave my head – I share that too because I’m a blurter.

We have a thing, you and I.

I know that.

You care about what’s going on in my life, and you care about my family, and when you write back and share your stories I care about those. Sometimes our lives are running parallel and my shit is the same as your shit and we virtual high five each other know that we’re kicking life’s arse together even though we’re in the shit, and other times we are just a couple of buddies chatting over a virtual brewskie.

We can safely say we are in a relationship.

At times it’s a love affair, and other times we may take each other for granted a little bit like a long-term partner, but either way we have something going.

Something special.

I’m here because it’s a space that I can share knowledge, a space that I can share all of my thoughts, dreams, images, recipes and poo stories…. Like having a catch up with friend. But after three years of writing all of my hope and fears, laughter and tears, I have to ask the question –

Why are you here?

Blogging is a kind of voyeurism – a little window into someone’s life, which is tantalising but what is it about this blog that keeps you reading?

I’m not asking you because I want you to blow sunshine up my arse.

I’m asking you so that I can give you more of what you want.

Do you like when I cook easy mid-week meals, or do you like my lazy weekend lunches?

Do you want more women’s issues, or do you wish I would stick to parenting philosophy, and anecdotes?

Do you like when I make videos?

I used to write so much for love and share snippets of my life and just write whatever but it’s changed over the years. Now I overthink it a bit and wish it was simple again but you can’t really go backwards, can you?

Keeping Up With The Holsbys is not a job for me.

I don’t wear a uniform, and I don’t clock on or off, but it blessedly turned into a way that I can make some fun clams to keep my kids in the Happy Cow and rice crackers that they like to eat, whilst still getting to be myself complete with random vagina talks, crazy life experiences and body hair.

The best thing about this NOT JOB, is that we can do whatever we want here – you and I…. so please, shoot me a quickie and tell me,

What do you want from me?

What bits do you like the best?

What bits are you meh about?



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  • Reply Gary Lum August 24, 2015 at 7:40 am

    Hi Danielle,
    I like the recipes and just the life stories.

    • Reply Danielle August 24, 2015 at 6:54 pm

      I’ve been a tad lax on the recipe front lately. I’ll conjure my food mojo up again! Thanks, Gary.

  • Reply Kim-Marie from Kimba Likes August 24, 2015 at 8:18 am

    Your take on life just makes me laugh and laugh, and then cry a little bit sometimes. Just keep on with the Danielle awesomeness. I don’t cook but every time I read your recipes I think I might. I’m a big fan of keeping it real and I love that you do this. Your videos are the actual best. I don’t actually like to watch vlogs – but yours are must sees.

  • Reply Kate August 24, 2015 at 11:42 am

    I like it all. X

  • Reply Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me August 24, 2015 at 12:50 pm

    I have to be useless and say that I like it all – it’s just how you write that I love not what you write, that’s why I read, to be entertained. As you know I don’t do baking etc… x

    • Reply Danielle August 24, 2015 at 7:00 pm

      One day I will inspire you to bake!!!! Thanks for the feedback though, Ems xxx

  • Reply susievenkat August 24, 2015 at 5:21 pm

    I think I got on to you because of a recipe(s) you put on MOM… Yay! I LOVE to cook but am all about keeping it real – no long list of ingredients, or fancy schmancy for me. And also as Emily said – its how you write. It is indeed like catching up with a girlfriend and being really honest/down-to-earth. I do love getting other people’s parenting philosophies – just knowing I’m not going through the crap and mess and ‘issues’ alone is so comforting… I think that’s it!

    • Reply Danielle August 24, 2015 at 6:59 pm

      Hey Susie, thanks for the input. Although you love everything, you gave me the directive ‘keep it real’. I’ll keep it in mind in the kitchen (and I’m not refering to wearing tracks and uggs and swilling wine). Thanks for replying x

  • Reply San August 24, 2015 at 5:52 pm

    I LURVE the way your mind works. You are one of the funniest, most poignant writers I know. PLEASE, for all us fans out in cyber space, WRITE A BOOK!!!! When you’ve finished your knitting and you’re not crushing walnuts with your left foot of course…… and your videos are do die for…. more vids. please. Did I answer the question????

    • Reply Danielle August 24, 2015 at 6:57 pm

      My Dad wants me to write a book too…. I’ll get right on that ;-P
      More videos I can probably handle right now though. I do have fun making them, so yep, you answered good, toots.

  • Reply raphaela99 August 25, 2015 at 11:21 am

    Love the recipes, love you talking about coping with life, love your perspective on things, and also love your talks with people (like when you went to the brothel). You are a unique and authentic voice. Also adore the photographs you display from some of your shoots. xxx

  • Reply Katie August 25, 2015 at 8:32 pm

    In that photo – I definitely want your teeth. So pearly and white! 😉
    But otherwise I’ve been hooked on the real stuff. Just the chit-chat, get down n real dirty, funny, sad, personal (and I’ll say it again) real stuff. I’m crap at cooking cos my family are crap at eating anything interesting but I still like to see what’s on your plate (and I will do that laaaamb one day!). The videos are a bit daft, but hey why not? But yeah – please don’t veer off into lala fitness/beauty/health/style… there’s enough of that being thrust upon us out there. The specific articles you write are always articulate, funny and smart enough to keep us coming back without feeling like you’re preaching the word. That’s your style. That’s what I like. I also like you give us feedback and you don’t mind a bit of cheekiness coming your way from us either. I only wish I had time to contribute more stories when you ask us for them! I also like to think I might bump into you one day and just sit and have a coffee (or vino!!) and that would be perfectly cool. Nice one D. Blurt away! xx

  • Reply Michele August 27, 2015 at 3:00 pm

    Hi Danielle,

    I visit your blog, because sometimes you make me laugh out loud – I soooo get what you are talking about … have you ever seen the Grumpy Old Women/Men series/DVDs? They have a similar effect on me … I watch them/read your blog and nod my head going yes, Yes, YEs, YES!!

    I like most of your offerings, so just keep going as you are! (For me anyway ..)

    Thank you


  • Reply Nicole - Champagne and Chips September 5, 2015 at 3:16 pm

    Heya, I already told you this in the 5 minutes directly after I met you when you were having #pbcrisis (a totally appropriate hashtag for next year to describe all the “I simply can’t do ALL the things” feelings that arise at PB) – I think you are cool. I like how down to earth you are and that you are warm and open and real.
    I’m much more interested in the real life sizzle than perfect skirts 🙂

    • Reply Danielle September 5, 2015 at 4:19 pm

      Dude, I could never top your Downton Abbey so I should just stick to what I’m good at! xxx

  • Reply Heather Catlow May 10, 2016 at 12:29 pm

    I love to read your stories. As my daughter is married to your brother somehow I feel closer to her as I read !? (me being in the UK) I love to see pictures and read about your children, what a delight they were the day we all met last December for lunch.. Keep keeping on Danielle. Am so pleased you’re happy again in your love life… Love, Heather. x

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