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Why you need a holiday

October 21, 2016
mini-buses were a hot favourite on our recent Phuket adventure

were the kids wowed by the vibrant Thai culture? The fresh and delicious food? The friendly and warm locals? Nope. The mini-buses.

We tend to get stuck in our little mouse wheels, we humans. Our little feet are constantly chasing, chasing, chasing as the wheel of life whirs around us, keeping us contained and focused on our feet…and probably not faceplanting if your coordination is similar to mine. 

We’re all so busy, busy, busy all of the time that we feel that perhaps the world will come to a screeching halt if we stop for a moment.

we arrived at night, and woke to this view

we arrived at night, and woke to this view…we knew then that this was going to be tough.

We often feel that we a) can’t spend the money on a holiday right now, b) can’t leave because people need us to be there doing our jobs and c) about a million other shithouse or even somewhat valid excuses we give ourselves not to take a break.

As someone who works for themself, I rarely even take a day off. Sure, I don’t slog out a traditional eight hours a day chained to a desk, but I always have a list as long as a whale’s penis of things to work on, admin to tend to (which I do farking poorly FYI) and am at the beck and call of my email ping every minute of the day.

Exploring new cultures and possibly nibbling on offerings to Gods. It's all good.

Exploring new cultures and possibly nibbling on offerings to Gods. It’s all good.

How can anyone take holidays? How can peeps afford to take time off life, work, school, stuff? Well, what I’m about to tell you, is something very valuable I learned recently.

You can’t afford not to.

monkeys, boats, warm water, I mean seriously....

monkeys, boats, warm water, I mean seriously….

Note to self - don't walk under trees.

Note to self – don’t walk under trees.

Everyone’s definition of holiday is a little different. 

For some, driving a 4WD to a remote beach and fishing for a week is their idea of bliss. For others, it’s sitting by a pool drinking fluffy cocktails served in hollowed-out pineapples. Maybe some like both. The point is, a holiday need not be a squillion dollars in airfares and resort living, although that is quite spectacular I assure you after my recent fancy pants jaunt.

A holiday is taking a break from your everyday life.

boat trip...four seasons in one day.

boat trip…four seasons in one day.

She oscillated between loving the speedboat and being terrified... now that's adventure!

She oscillated between loving the speedboat and being terrified… now that’s adventure!

I looked for DiCaprio but I couldn't find him anywhere.

I looked for DiCaprio but I couldn’t find him anywhere.

Switching off.

Recharging your batteries.

for some people recharging looks a lot like this

we recharged in this fashion quite a lot

we also did a buttload of this

we also did a buttload of this

Getting away from your multitude of responsibilities with their varying weights and putting all of your STUFF down for just a few short breaths. It doesn’t need to be month in Europe, or a fortnight in the sunshine, or even a week camping. Just a few days away will make a huge difference to your mental state.

So many mini-buses.

So many mini-buses.

After my recent holiday to Thailand with my friends I found myself harping to anyone who would listen-

“I’ve realised how important holidays are. I feel less worn, less like a walking nerve ending and more like I’m ready to take on the world again.”

open air rides through tropical paradise

open air rides through tropical paradise, perfect for sweaty pits.

...and anyone who goes bright red in the heat.

…and anyone who goes bright red in the heat.

Then recently, I was sitting with my darling friend with whom we went away and she said, verbatim, “I’ve realised how important holidays are.”

I actually thought she was taking the piss and I’d already said it to her, but no…. She’s a busy mum, working a hugely stressful job that she loves, and she confided that she has not felt in the last couple of years that she can take time off.

She has holiday days, of course. They are accruing away, waving at her but her nose stays firmly on the grindstone and she tells herself she can’t take time away…because how would they cope without her?

We stopped caring what was happening in reality. Phones had been off for four days in this picture.

these people are officially giving no shits about their stressful jobs.

Then there are the other people, like me.

When you work for yourself, you don’t get holiday pay. You don’t get a compulsory four weeks a year, giving you time over Christmas and some cheeky weeks during the year (same goes if you’re a stay-at-home mum, when you think about it. The word holiday does not exist in her vocabulary, but it certainly should.)

The pressure we put on ourselves to constantly perform is a very unsustainable thing, and neither should you want to. Smart employers like Google and Facebook are rumoured to have nap pods in their offices because they recognise that their employees are more productive after a power nap.

these guys had probably just finished a huge buffet breakfast and were considering poolside cocktails before a lazy lunch

these guys had probably just finished a huge buffet breakfast and were considering poolside cocktails before a lazy lunch

Consider a holiday a power nap on steroids.

You return refreshed, a kilo or so heavier if you do it like I do, but you’re revived. The world doesn’t stop when you step out of it for a moment, and when you step back you bring a better brighter version of yourself.

I decided on this holiday that I’m going to take another one. The whole lot of us that traveled together decided at Easter we’re going to rent a little house on the south coast and take another breather. Now, as we power through until then, we have something to look forward to (aside from climbing a whacking great mountain of course, however, that’s quite a different kind of  – don’t you think?).

A close encounter of a most spectacular kind. We showered her, she showered us and we all ate bananas.

A close encounter of a most spectacular kind. We showered her, she showered us and we all ate bananas.

memories of a lifetime...and that's just for Cindy the Elephant

memories of a lifetime…and that’s just for Cindy the Elephant

A metaphorical island refuge in our crazy lives where we can hole up and recharge before we jump back into the swirling fray.

Even a weekend away is great if you can’t plan longer. A cheeky weekender is a circuit breaker that shakes up routine. Many caravan parks have little cabins, it doesn’t need to be expensive, it just needs for you to switch off.

that kid....

that kid….

...in fact, this pair.

…in fact, this pair.

No work. No emails. No Facebook if you can actually tear yourself away.

Just being present.

Just being real, and just being a relaxed version of you… children’s behavior pending.

look at those smiling, relaxed, happy heads.... we needed a bloody holiday.

look at those smiling, relaxed, happy heads…. we needed a bloody holiday.

 

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  • Reply [email protected] through the haze October 21, 2016 at 11:18 pm

    I can’t believe how different you look with short hair! Holidays are truly wonderful things! We haven’t had a do nothing holiday I mean proper holiday since 2011 when my hubby and I snuck off for 5 days to Fiji to celebrate 10yrs married and both our 40ths. We do however go to my parents place in Sanctuary Point now (they were in Vincentia but mum needed a single storey house so they sold/moved round the corner) every chance we get. But it isn’t like a do nothing holiday because the kids want to chill on devices which drives my parents completely mad so I am forever on edge trying to make sure that the kids aren’t annoying anyone!
    I really NEED a holiday an overnight at the Novotel 5mins away with room service and a late check out would honestly do me right now! Though we are thinking about a cruise in the first couple of weeks of school next year lol …

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